We are designed to come together sexually for pleasure and procreation, and our body parts fit like puzzle pieces. While it feels great to share intimate moments with a lover and reach orgasm, sometimes your sex life takes a dip in the ratings and struggles to find its place in your evening lineup. This could be because of hormonal changes, a disconnect with your partner or a way too busy life that leaves you exhausted by bedtime, and the result is the occasional dip in the pool that is predictable and underwhelming.
Would you like to transform your intimacy so it is exciting and fresh again? Who doesn’t, but figuring out how to get there can be hard. These are five ideas to spice up your sex life. Try to see what they can do for your intimate relationships. You’ll love all the new sexual weaponry to add to your intimate arsenal.
For those that need a little encouragement and help, here are five ideas to spice up your sex life.
Idea #1: Sex Toys
If you want to spice up your sex life, sex toys are the answer. There is a wide variety of toys to experiment with, and as long as you both are willing to explore and know your boundaries, toys will make your intimate moments very enjoyable. Browse a sex toy store for an extensive collection.
Here are a few toys to check out:
Outside Stimulators
These toys play with your external body parts and aim to please. They include vibrators, clit suction devices, cock rings, edible lube and cock sleeves.
Inside Stimulators
For internal pleasure zones, you can get some great toys to reach those G-spots and beyond. Try out dildos, anal plugs and anal beads to give you and your partner lots of pleasure.
BDSM Toys
If you are more adventurous and want to try some impact toys, there is a wide variety to choose from, like blindfolds, whips, nipple clamps, gags, restraints and even sex furniture.
Always ensure both of you are comfortable using these sexual enhancers and take it slow so you get used to the fantastic feel of sex toys.
Idea #2: Masturbate
This may seem counterintuitive, but it can give you a sexual upgrade. When you engage in solo sex, it will increase your sex drive and get you thinking more about sex. You may have forgotten how good it feels to have a sexual release, so find a few quiet moments and pleasure yourself. You will get the juices flowing and increase your desire for your mate.
Skip the porn because it disconnects you from your partner and instead builds a sexual scenario in your mind involving your lover, so your desire grows for them. This is where you can fantasize about what you would like to do and have done to you. Then carry that fantasy into the bedroom and act it out with your partner. Masturbating gets you more focused on sex and will increase your frequency with your partner.
Idea #3: Change Location
The bedroom is typically where sex happens because it is a private location with a familiar and comfortable bed. This works well, but if you want to shake things up, change the location of your lovemaking to other areas around the home.
The couch is easy and works well for different sexual positions, and the shower is very steamy and exciting. Having sex on your home office desk can be wild, and you will be reminded of your pleasure every time you work there.
How about the car? It may remind you of your teenage years, and that’s kind of the point. Sex includes oral, and you can do that almost anywhere, with the chance of getting caught ramping up the spice.
Idea #4: Have a Shirts Only Night
This is a fun way to make an unforgettable evening with your partner and is as simple as it sounds. After work, you shower and only put on a shirt, no bottoms, so everything below the belt is exposed. This is exciting and very sexy to see your loved one walking around with their loved parts in full view, and you’ll be surprised how horny you will be all night.
Chances are, you won’t make it past dinner and will have multiple encounters throughout the evening. You can have some fun in the kitchen while making dinner, under the table for some touching and lots of oral on the couch while trying to watch your favourite shows.
Make sure to tease each other with lots of bending over to pick things up and slow walk-bys so they can get a good look and lots of contact.
Idea #5: Talk About Your Fantasies
Most people have certain things that turn them on, and wish they could act out their sexual fantasies with their partner. Instead of thinking about it, tell them to want you to want instead.
Discussing your sexual fantasies can be tough because you don’t want to turn off the other person. They will likely get excited about your desires and want to fulfill them. This will help with your overall communication and connection and lead to spicier and more pleasurable sexual encounters for both of you.
